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In Defense of Snowflakes

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If you have spent five seconds online recently–and I would wholeheartedly recommend less–you have heard a relatively new insult being bandied about like an emotional hand-grenade: “special snowflake.”
Isn’t that just a wonderful term?  It should slide right into the fifth grade bully’s lexicon, right between “give me your lunch money” and “are you gonna cry now?”
If you don’t understand the nature of the insult…well, aren’t you a special snowflake?  Your life has been so easy, the insulated bubble you inhabit so perfectly filled with your own self-delusion, that you haven’t even had the wherewithal to keep track of real insults out here in the real world.  See how it works?  A “snowflake,” apparently, is someone who thinks they are special.  That the normal rules of the big, bad world (might makes right, an eye for an eye, do it to them before they do it to you, etc.) shouldn’t apply to them.  Snowflakes are fragile, weepy, spoiled, child-like, ignorant, navel-gazing, sniveling, sore losers who are overdue for real life to kick them one in the teeth.  Snowflakes are the kids who got a participation trophy, the dreamers, the losers, the “save the whales,” “make love, not war” weirdos, the slackers, the ones who lacked the courage to take what was theirs.
Like most broad generalizations hurled at people who don’t agree with you, it’s full of crap.
Don’t worry, I am not going to lay out my point by point defense of snowflakes.  If you are someone out there in the cyber cesspool throwing this term around, none of my pontifications are liable to shake your unshakable belief in your own almighty rightness.  That’s fine.  Well, no it’s not fine, in fact it’s fairly horrifying, but my point is I’m not going to try to change your made-up mind.  What I would like to do is look a little more closely at what is lurking behind the snowflake rhetoric.
My first question is this: if you had kids (as many people do), what did you tell them when they were growing up?  That they weren’t special?  Did you tell them they could become whatever they wanted if they worked hard enough, or did you tell them to have realistic expectations about the limits of their talents?  Did you encourage them to dream, or did you tell them dreaming was for the weak?  Honestly, I’m asking.  Because when you call someone a “special snowflake” for believing that a better world than the one we live in is at least possible, you are espousing an incredibly nihilistic, pessimistic point of view.  Of course no one likes to have smoke blown up their ass–I mean, if your kid is 5′ 3″ and can’t jump maybe he or she shouldn’t be encouraged to follow their dreams of NBA stardom–but are hopes for the future really that delusional?  I’m assuming (though maybe I shouldn’t) that notions like equality, justice, fairness, freedom–you know, the notions this country were founded upon–are equally important across political and demographic lines.  If that is so, isn’t calling someone a “special snowflake” while actually intimating that they are NOT special, NOT unique, NOT deserving a voice, about as un-American a thing as you can possibly say?
More to the point: is your motivation just to get people to shut up?  If it is, you can just be honest about it.  Because the actual, realistic outcome of calling someone a snowflake is to immediately end all further rational discussion.  You’ve swung your arms and drawn a big black “X” over the recipient’s mouth.  You’ve made them a cliche.  And I know it makes it easier for you to believe what you believe when you are able to pigeonhole anyone who doesn’t agree with you as weaker, more precious, more fragile, more out-of-touch with reality.  It feels good, I guess, to lash out and release your pent up anger.  OK, mission accomplished, you shut up your “opponent” and ended the debate.  But you didn’t win the argument.  What you did was bully someone.  And let’s not mince words–that was your intention.  Silencing.

It won’t work.  As the venerable Dr. King once said, “The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends towards justice.”  Pessimism is easy.  It’s easy to say the world is hard and cold and always will be.  That progress is impossible.  Optimism is harder, because optimism means seeing possibilities even in the middle of the darkness.  And being an optimist also leaves you open to all sorts of second-guessing from the sidelines.  You might even be called a snowflake.   But as my friend Lisa recently said, “Go ahead and call me a snowflake.  Enough of those snowflakes get together, that shit becomes a blizzard!”


My Satellite Internet Provider From Hell

I couldn’t post a blog yesterday. Wanna know why? Because I have the worst internet service on the planet, that’s why.

It’s called HughesNet locally and it’s a satellite system. Since we live in the boonies, you have to be directly on a main drag in town to get cable. The rest of the hinterlands are left to rot. We live about a football field away from one of these main drags, but we would have to pay a trillion dollars and offer them our eldest son to get them to run a line down our street. Apparently cable lines are made from diamonds.

So here’s the deal with HughesNet satellite. They know you’re desperate, or you wouldn’t be asking for their service to begin with. Since they have the bully stick, they immediately begin to pound you with it. You are allowed 200 megabytes a day, except between the hours of 2am and 7am. You know what 200mb gets you? Try about four YouTube videos. Or two online video games. Know what you can’t do anymore? Let your computer automatically download updates, or leave your browser open, or check your friggin’ email or live a normal online life. But they do have a handy little program that lets you know when you’ve passed your daily threshold, which makes a big red stoplight appear in the right hand side of your monitor. Do you think they expect you to go over their ridiculous limit?—they only built an entire program just to let you know you’re screwed!

When you’re red-lighted, your internet slows down to an unusable crawl. The only site you seem to be able to get on is HughesNet itself, where you can buy a “get out of internet jail free” token for $5.00. The $70.00 a month we’re giving them isn’t enough, we have to shell out an extra five bucks every time we cross the imaginary line in cyberspace. We’ve honestly had days where we woke up in the morning and the light is red. No one has used the internet yet, but somehow we’re in violation. It’s like getting pulled over for speeding in your driveway.

But at least the internet works well! Unless there’s a rainstorm, or a snowstorm, or wind, or there’s a cloud in the sky or someone in the house sneezes. Whenever any of these acts of God occur, our modem gets kicked offline, which means you have to restart it in order to reconnect to the internet. That happens–and I’m being conservative here—a hundred times a day. It’s so annoying that it makes me want to call WildBlue, the only other satellite service available…oh, wait, we already tried that and they couldn’t find a signal where we live. We don’t need to play Monopoly, we’re living it every day.

So we suck it up and try to play by the rules and hope when we get up in the morning we’ll be safe. Oh, and we complain to each other. That seems to help. And we tell everyone we know, “Don’t use HughesNet, they are a rip-off!” If we can save one poor soul from this nightmare, we’ve done our job. But they’ll probably just say, “What the hell, I don’t have any choice. How bad can they be?” Not bad at all—if you’re up at 2 in the morning. Otherwise, consider yourself warned!